A Dilemma October 26 2006
Someone told Feffie a huge hurtful and damaging lie.
It’s about our father. And was told to her by one of our siblings.
And it’s a HORRID lie.
And I feel like I should tell them. You see not only because it’s a horrible thing to do, but also because they help this sister. A A LOT. I mean A LOT. And she pretends to be something she is totally not when she’s around them. She’s so holier than thou and blah blah blah.
It makes me sick. My parents go on an on about how much help she needs cause her life is stressful with an @usti$tic child (which, I’m sure it is) and how she’s making ALL THESE sacrifices and blah blah blah. When really? She’s huge pot head. So much so that she’ll smoke it when she’s awake. Yup. And? She’s a bit of a drunk. She, who preaches the word of sobriety like it’s her own personal gospel. Drinks at least 4 nights a week. I think. And? At 8pm she sticks her kid in his bedroom with a huge snack, his sedative in hot chocolate and turns a movie or 4 on for him, while she retires to the garage to get high. cause it’s the only way she can “Deal with him”.
And you know what? I’m being self righteous. Sure I’ve smoked pot and I’ve even smoked it since I became a parent, but I never ever once smoked while he was awake. EVER. And never for like 15 years straight.
Gah.
So? Do I pull the rose coloured glasses off for them or let them live in their perfect little dream world.
P.S. Dropping the job subject cause seriously, I didn’t take it. I know I whined about not being offered it and totally got caught up in but, it just couldn’t work for us. 
Yo Pam- sent to you by “Diary of a Playground drop out.” I know I’m a bit slow on the draw here, but………….Family issues suck. So much so that I moved 12 hours away from them to try and get away from it. And yes, your boys are too stinkin’ cute.
You’re caught up in a sticky situation. May be approaching your sister first might be the first step.
Don’t ask me though. Our family has issues of their own that weren’t handled all together the best way. What do I know.
I’m sorry that you are in the middle of this. It’s never easy. I think Hula Doula has the right idea though. Perhaps approaching your sister first might be the best idea. Good luck and keep us posted.
And about the job…for what it’s worth, I think you did the right thing because you did what was right for you. And that’s what counts.
Families. Issues….ick….I think I’m with Hula on this one. Try your sister first. It’s so hard when you have to hurt another family member(father) to right another big hurt …….I don’t live really close to my family..on purpose
believe me……they probably know what your sister is about. But they cant admit it…..its still their child…..
Im going thru it too. My parents feel SO F-ing sorry for my sister most of the time that they give her a “pass” for all of the wrong things she does.
its maddening……