Help! September 16 2005
Ok..I’m done with the pity party…forget about it.
I have a new problem.
Brendan is having a trouble settling into his new school. I think it’s a bit of rougher school than his last one. And “all the kids hate me…nobody likes me” to the point where he was vomiting this morning…and I let him stay home.
I don’t know how to deal with this one. I feel badly and want to move back so he can go to his old school (which is rated the number one school in the province by the way).
I feel badly for him because normally he likes school and has loads of friends! The kids here are different and do not PLAY during recess…they listen to walkmen or play video games (not allowed at his old school). They don’t seem to be as active as Brendan or his old friends. I feel like even though we just left a much smaller town…there was a MUCH bigger population of children…and also..they seemed to be much much more tolerant children. Everyone was pretty much accepted. I forgot this town is closed minded.
Help me! I need to help him and get him back on track for school on Monday.
That’s a tough one, Pam. Sorry the little guy is having trouble at school. That’s a serious trauma for a young kid. Somewhere in that crowd of people are other kids that are like him though, but it sounds like it may just be there aren’t as many as in his other school.
Vomiting sounds pretty bad. Are the kids just ignoring him or are they actively picking on him? If there is picking going on, then contact with the teacher or principle may straighten it out. You pay for education in your taxes and if rotten kids at school are, in effect, stealing your child’s education, then something needs to be done
to themabout it.Maybe its just the usual new kid problem where people are reluctant to talk to or be seen with the new kid. It sounds like such a cop-out but is there some ritual or possesion like a walkman that would mark him as “one of them”?
Sorry he’s having a hard time. And I’m sorry you are having a hard time too.
Being the new kid is so tough. I moved in 5th grade and the adjustment (yes, I still remember it all) was so difficult. Maybe try to talk to the teacher and make sure he isn’t being bullied?
This kind of stuff makes my heart ache because I was always kind of on the outside when in school, and my son was for many years until we moved and he lucked into a much nicer school.
I wish I had some words of advice. All those years and I never have found the answer. I agree with Jon though, that if there is bullying or meanness taking place, contact the teacher or principal. I would like to see more proactivity on that in our schools.
Hopefully it is an adjustment period and things will settle in soon.
Stupid Elliot Lake kids. Maybe he could win them over by having some kids over to play with his game cube or something? Poor little guy
I was TERRIFIED of the same thing happening to us. LilZ is very “eccentric” and I was worried he wouldnt fit in. He suprised me and did gREAT for a while,but now he’s allparanoid no one likes him and he wants to go to his old school too. I dont know WHAT we should do, but I do know that I suffered the same type of misery in my schools and daycare too. And I turned out normal (HA!) - but I wish I could make it okay too. Its so frustrating.